About Me

I’d like to get to know you. So I’ll start by sharing a bit more about me if you’re game.

KindEdge.com is a collection of bite-sized action steps that help you get big life change in motion. I built this suite of doable steps for myself. They enabled me to pile-drive my dreams through the chaos that is real life. 

After decades wasted on self-help books and guru content that left me running in circles, I finally applied my business consulting “change management” methods to my own life. I developed short, well-defined decision and action tools that enabled me to drive real progress. Even when life landed me in the emergency room lobby at midnight to tend to a child’s sports injury, I had these tools to guide my tired, muddled mind through a crisp, simple next decision and next action. Each step hooks to the next and that chain, unbroken, actually worked when all other methods failed.

I now live a fundamentally different and better life that I designed for myself. I wake up every day energized to live out my purpose and enjoy a daily arc designed for me. I’m a mom of two incredible young men and one beloved black lab. I’ve lived in many cities within the US and abroad and I call St Petersburg, Florida, home.

Here is my mantra:

Run tests.  

Ask "what works?" 

Do that and...  

Run more tests...

Get in flow with who you were meant to be with iterative experiments, judgment-free a/b tests, and continuous evolution by simply inviting-in that which works and discarding the rest.

I grew up in Chicago and have lived in the Silicon Valley, the Carolinas, South Africa, Scotland, and now Florida. I’ve traveled to many places and I most cherish trips wherein I can blend in locally. Alone in Beijing, Shanghai, Rome and more, I wandered down back alleys, up rickety staircases and dined in family-run restaurants not accustomed to tourists. Travel is best when it feeds your ears, eyes and notebook as much as your entertainment and gustatory desires.

I have some important anchors in my life. One is a blend of legacy and ikigai–a continually-narrowing definition of my purpose. I seek to express the stuff that fills my brain in a way that delivers value to others: 

We are all here to use what we learn in a way that lifts others.

Life is a relay race; do not fear impermanence. When you pass the baton… ALL BOATS RISE.

Another anchor is something I call “infinite self-kaizen.” Kaizen, continual improvement, is, for me, a form of forgiving reflection and movement toward greater aspirations. Without judgment, I continually reflect on what worked in my days, and what I might do less of. I prune this, and seek out that. From skills, to mindsets, to permissions, to people, to environments and to experiences.

I also am attracted to the concept of techne: making and building “In Real Life,” honing a craft through practice vs. theory. The real world is our teacher; it bounces back at us in funny and unexpected ways. 

Anytime there seem to be too many goals, too many options, and too many solutions to too many problems, I anchor to the essence of what we should be doing here on Earth:

Run tests. Ask "what works?" Do that. And run more tests.

My social media links below share more about my corporate communications consulting background, education (go Deacs!) and more. At my core I’m a truther with a keyboard; I write to express the stripped-down realities I observe. I am a social introvert whose kryptonite is small talk; when parties devolve into surface-level chatter I look for a dog to play with or start shooting popcorn at people’s heads. I’ve jumped into pools fully-clothed to avoid small talk.

I am disciplined and planful; I keep excel spreadsheet lists of my excel spreadsheet lists (you think I’m joking…) I do not gossip and I avoid people who can be heard whispering “and she this, and she that…” I befriend people who hold themselves accountable for creating their own conversation-worthy stories. I believe quiet is often wiser and braver than loud. Truth is braver and a better growth-catalyst than denial or chameleonism.

A few more odds & ends to paint a more full, if pixelated, picture of me.

- I'm the proud student of my best teacher, Donovan, a loving English lab. And the fraction of microseconds it would take for me to volunteer my life for my sons is too small to measure. I will proudly leave this earth having replaced myself with two exponentially higher value humans.

- In a world that rewards us for being consumers of information and things, we are at risk of assuming leaders, gurus and pop-stars have the answers. Sometimes we let our affiliations with these outside entities serve as a proxy for our personal brands. Yikes. Authenticity comes from raw, rough, experiential testing of one's own personal beliefs.

A video journal entry on a key turning point in my journey

Zero Carb * Intermittent Fasting * Autoimmune Protocol * Pescavore * Grain-free Seed-oil-free Sugar-free Sweetener-free * Celiac * Hashimoto’s * Stage III Cancer * Carabiner Codependency * Five-string Bluegrass Fan * Classical Ballet * Yoga * Outward Bound * Door County, Wisconsin * South Africa * Scotland * Stand-up Comedy * Silicon Valley * Florida * Chicago * Francophilia * Sarcasm * Essentialism & Minimalism * Warm Weather & Waters * Neurotransmitter Optimization * Natural Bio Optimization * Dry Wine * Hero’s Journey * Sashimi * Travel.

I love Mondays. I don't make new year's resolutions. And I want to work until the day I die.
 @MarySueIRL

China sightseeing
LukeLikesPie
8th Grade
Golfing in China
Little Me
Scotland-Graham
Adventures
Dining in China
St Andrews- Scotland